Do you ever feel like you are learning the same lessons all over again? I’m pulling up the shades this week and letting you know how I deal with some of the concepts I discuss in my coaching. This has been a powerful week for me, in which I’ve relearned some of my own top lessons.
1. Prioritize your health
This week, I had to deal with fatigue, which slows my own expectations down (no surprise there!). It could not have come at a better time, because I was in the midst of a critical planning phase and had to consider the best way to give of my talents while also taking care of myself. I am a planner, I like to have everything figured out, and move swiftly without missing a beat.
My health challenges require that I sleep regularly, take more breaks, deal effectively with anything that is causing me anxiety, and let things go. I can assure you that I wasn’t very good at any of these things before I got sick. Now that I want to stay well, they have become priorities. Which is to say, I try, I fail, and I practice again because they are important to me. I have to remind myself that learning how to master this does not require perfection.
2. Stay vigilant about work-life balance
Traditionally, I love to work hard, which isn’t so good for my health anymore. Since transitioning into my business full-time, I love brainstorming, creating, and writing. The problem is: how do you pull away from your work when you love it? Left to my own devices, I would be the worst at implementing balance.
What helps me is accountability. I try to put a cap on working after 5pm, and structure my day so that I work effectively (I prefer one-hour spurts, but find out what works best for you!). I wear a device that starts beeping when its close to my bedtime. It also tells me the next morning how much sleep I’ve received, and how close that is to my goal (8 hours). This forces me to look at my habits, because I create best when I am well-rested. It also nudges me when I’ve been sitting too long, and challenges me to stay active (in fact, I just took a walk in the middle of writing this post, as a way of checking in with myself).
3. Remember your “WHY”
One of the highlights of my week was visiting the Donna Summers exhibit at the Grammy Museum in Downtown Los Angeles. Most people know the famed singer, who passed away in 2012 from lung cancer, for her hits such as “Last Dance” and “Hot Stuff”. But what immediately drew me in was her art. She was a self-taught visual artist, influenced by the likes of Pablo Picasso. Because she was willing to stretch herself beyond what others expected of her, she tried something new and and became quite successful. This resonated with a central message of my life and my coaching, which is to live your life to your fullest–whatever that means for you. Don’t let your own perceptions of yourself–or those of others–drown out your passions. Discover what makes you feel alive, and make time for it.
I paint people from the inside out… from what I see in people… that’s why my paintings are abstract and not well defined… because who can truly know the heart of another person?
– Donna Summer
Visiting her exhibit reminded me that I don’t have to be perfect, to do everything quickly, or to be a master of everything. If I can say that I helped others believe in themselves and live more authentically, I will have accomplished my goals. That is my WHY.
What are some of the lessons that you have learned over and over again? What are your current lessons teaching you?
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